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Storytelling: A Gift of Hope

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Moving from imagination to reality.

3/18/2024

 
By Kiran Singh Sirah
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Photo by Billy Howard
Over the years, I’ve appreciated learning ways people make sense of the world, chart pathways for healing and discovery, for our community. I often reflect on a conversation with an artist from Sierra Leone I met in a Brooklyn restaurant some years ago. Over dinner, he told me that the word for “medicine” in his village back home was “story.”

Just a couple of years ago, Tom Belt, an elder and citizen of the Cherokee Nation of Oklahoma, hosted us at a gathering on top of the Shaconage- “land of the blue smoke,” otherwise known as the Great Smoky Mountains. Mr. Belt talked about stories as the cosmology of his people in a place where his people have told stories for over 12,000 years. And how it took a 1000 miles and 150 years for him to return home.

During the pandemic, I also learned so much about the art of listening from my friend Daniel Kish. Blind from early childhood, Daniel is a world expert on echolocation and famous for developing a technique that uses tongue clicks to produce soundscapes as a way to “see” and understand an environment. He describes it as establishing the knowns within the unknowns, building points of reference, like navigating by the stars and making it into a story. We still talk regularly and share sound clip recordings via WhatsApp to one another when we’re in different places.

Last week, these interactions came to mind as I shared them in detail, with three days leading a series of narrative reflections, conversations, with a community of artists, veterans, healers, creative community storytellers from West Virginia, all gathered to envision the home they too wish to move from imagination to reality.

We walked by the lake, had conversations from morning to late at night, explored stories to preserve, uplift, disrupt, and reimagine to create a world that feels just and inclusive. We even got to play and drum and sing together one night by the firepit. That’s when I looked up at a night sky full of stars, and I thought of my friend and prepared a sound clip to send.

I am grateful to my friends from the Riff Raff Art Collective, its partners, and friends, for providing this space and for trusting me with their hearts and minds, allowing me to facilitate, and for being open also to the uncomfortable alongside the imagined possibilities for what a better, fairer community can look and feel like.

Most of all, I appreciate the chance to share this mutual aid ancient art and practice for our modern world. In the call and response tradition of our blessed ancestors, elders and teachers.

Thanks to the Riff Raff Art Collective, its partners and my West Virginia friends for providing this creative space. I’m also looking forward to returning soon and seeing what unfolds!



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"Kapuna" - a sacred moment- a gift to receive

2/13/2024

 
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By Kiran Singh Sirah

Final day in O’ahu, Hawai’i, and I am so very grateful for the wonderful connections this week. Every encounter has been greeted with the warm embrace of Aloha, meaningful exchanges, invitations to homes, story sharing, and learning opportunities, for creating a better and fairer future for our world.
 
One beautiful human was the ASL interpreter from Maui, who interpreted my plenary talk this week for the Center for Disability Studies Pac Rim International conference. An incredible woman dedicated to the recovery of both Deaf and non-Deaf communities from the devastating fire that occurred months ago on Maui. As she talked, I could see clearly that her work helping to tell her community's stories, was sacred work.
 
There have been many other “talk story” moments, with disability rights, indigenous justice, and human rights activists, to a meeting a new friend yesterday, Dr. Maya Soertori-Ng, a remarkable peacebuilder, and her dear elder friend, Donna, whom Maya affectionately calls her Hanai mama. My connection with Maya began weeks ago, following an introduction from a mutual friend who suggested we should both meet. Maya suggested a cozy coffee shop that served excellent Kona coffee and matcha lattes, so that’s where we met.
 
Maya graciously gifted me a beautiful purple Lei and some hand-picked bananas from her garden, and I presented her with one of my elephant watercolors. Our conversation covered life, family, community, our late mothers, the places we call home, and the individuals who continue to inspire us.
 
It was only earlier this week, however, that a new friend in O’ahu mentioned, "You do know that’s Barack Obama's sister you’re meeting, right?" … I had no idea! It was undoubtedly a cool connection. But what was more fascinating was learning the scope and impact of her educational, peace, and justice-building work, from Ceeds of Peace, the Peace Studio, and a girls' empowerment sister program she’s cultivating alongside her brother's "My Brother's Keeper" initiative and with the Obama Foundation itself. Our discussion, like many conversations this week touched on "Kapuna" (ancestral and elders' wisdom and teachings), as well as climate justice projects designed to bring hope in today's challenging and troubled world.
 
As I reflect on all these experiences over the coming days, weeks, and months, I will be holding these memories close to my heart. I will cherish them for a lifetime. As a folklorist elder once explained to me, every encounter is a chance to not only give and share what you know- but more importantly, it’s a sacred moment- a gift to receive.
 
 

Stories for World Thinking Day.

2/12/2024

 
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Yesterday was World Thinking Day, and I'm grateful to my friend Lynnea, t of Girl Scouts of Southern Appalachias, for inviting me to speak to a group of Girl Scouts earning their World Thinking Day badge.
 
Often, we want to make the world better, but can feel powerless, unsure of how or where to begin. What impresses me about the Girl Scouts (and Girl Guides around the world) is their proactive approach—initiating activities, participating in group discussions, and envisioning possibilities for the changes they wish to see.
 
I also had the opportunity to share stories about the sheroes in my own family, particularly my late mother, reflecting on her fearlessness and love for all. I appreciate the thoughtful questions the Girl Scouts had.
 
Earlier this week involved some tough but necessary breaking the silence conversations with many of my global peacebuilding peers. I know maintaining hope can be challenging, especially when we’re witnessing the dismantling of so much historical good work by some not-so-nice individuals globally. Nevertheless, what sustains my hope is the presence of these young emerging leaders in our midst. They’re consistently imagining how to make the world a fairer and better place for everyone.
 
I am also proud to have earned my World Thinking Day badge on the same day they earned theirs! … I have placed it on my sacred shrine—as a reminder to hold onto hope, and thinking, as a crucial starting point for imagining a world that is possible.

Thanks to Girl Scouts and Girl Guides worldwide for your creative and imaginative thought leadership! If the Girl Scouts aren’t giving up, then neither am I.

Cultivating Joy, Coming Alive.

1/25/2024

 
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Photo by Lori McKinney
By Kiran Singh Sirah

It’s been a tough few months for many - due to the injustices and stark inequalities in our world, far and near our homes.
 
I’m reminded however in amongst the broken stories of our world, for those of us who can, we need to cultivate joy, to use our artistry, to help us and others, come alive. Through this, we can help heal, repair, connect, and shift stories for the change we wish to see in the world.
 
Shortly, I'll be returning to West Virginia for a three-day "we need to talk" deep-dive storytelling, arts, and creative changemakers convening I have the pleasure of co-designing and facilitating, which is themed around stories of “home,” what we bring, what brings us joy, and what kind of home we’re imagining for the health and well-being of our community's future.

A topic, as friends will know, that is close to my heart, and core to the essence of storytelling and narrative reflection.

Returning to an idea a friend reminded me of recently when we say we’re in traffic, we have to remember we are the traffic. In the same way, the world isn't separate from us; we are always integral to it.

We don’t come into the world; we emerge from it.

And as inspiring artist-activist Arundhati Roy suggests:

“Another world is not only
possible, she is on her way.
On a quiet day, I can hear her
breathing.”

*Photo by Lori Mckinney- 2:00 am at World Culture Festival. The last time I was in West Virginia. When my friend Lori encouraged me to stay up late (which I don't normally do) and join an all-night community jam, to put a bit more play and joy into my work-life balance!

Storytelling as a Sacred Gift

8/13/2023

 
By Kiran Singh Sirah

I want to take a moment to express my heartfelt appreciation to Smithsonian Folklife writer, Eileen Jones and the incredible production team at Smithsonian Center for Folklife and Cultural Heritage for capturing the essence of our experiences at this year’s Smithsonian Folklife Festival.
 
For me, storytelling has always been a spiritual practice, a creative outlet that holds immense power. It is not only a means of cultural expression but also a tool for building peace, social justice, community empowerment, and change.
 
I firmly believe that the potential to make a difference through storytelling belongs to all of us. No one person owns it; it is a collective power that we all possess. The two weeks spent on the National Mall will remain an unforgettable experience, one that I will always cherish. I am grateful for the opportunity to continue this important work, collaborating with grassroots communities, philanthropic peacebuilding and humanitarian foundations, and individuals who believe in the transformative and sacred power and potential of storytelling to build social empathy, cross-cultural understanding, peace, equity, and justice.
 
Thank you, Eileen Jones, and the Smithsonian Folklife team, for capturing the essence of our journey and reminding us of the potential we hold within ourselves and in our relationships with each other. Let us continue to use storytelling as a force for good, as a means to create a world that is better for generations to come. Together, we can make a difference. 

Read the Smithsonian Blog  by Eileen Jones 
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Illuminations & Reflections: Storytelling as a Sacred Gift
 
As a participating partner in the Smithsonian Folklife Festival, Storyteller and Folklorist, Kiran led daily “kitchen table”-style community conversations that explored stories as living expressions of culture, faith, and tradition that help us make meaning as we move through the world. These sessions explored the sacred power of storytelling to build meaning in our lives and peace in the world, the art of sharing stories in service of understanding each other better and celebrating our similarities and differences. Here are the five themed talks Kiran shared. Each one was followed with interactive activities and facilitated conversations.

Over a two-week period, Kiran led around twenty story circle themed conversations around these topics:
 
  • Soundscapes and Glimmers: The Stories of Everyday Life- Kiran Singh Sirah, explores easy and engaging paths to being more present and mindful from moment to moment. (Mindfulness-themed talk)
  • One World, Many Stories- Kiran Singh Sirah unpacks how different perspectives create value, understanding, and joy in our lives.
  • Sacred Stories and Our Natural World- Folklorist Kiran Singh Sirah shows how stories can help us repair our broken relationship with the environment. (Environment-themed talk)
  • Every Meal Is a Story- In this kitchen-table style session, folklorist Kiran Singh Sirah explores the importance of foodways in his Sikh faith and in building relationships across cultural contexts. (food and foodways-themed talk)
  • Modern Rituals- Across cultures, we activate milestones, actions, and objects to help us remember, honor, forgive, and forget. Folklorist Kiran Singh Sirah will lead this session about incorporating simple, yet rich and meaningful, rituals into our daily lives.


The Journey of Five

5/25/2023

 
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By Kiran Singh Sirah

I come from the Sikh tradition, a faith that many people in the United States don’t know a lot about. While it’s the world’s fifth-largest religion, it’s also a tradition that is often misunderstood here and abroad and especially in India, which is where it originates. Growing up in England in the 1980s and 90s, my father (who wears a traditional Sikh turban) was frequently accused by strangers on the street of being a terrorist. For my entire life, Sikhs being referred to as terrorists has been a racial slur that people sometimes use out of hate, but mostly use out of ignorance and misguided fear. I’m sure you can imagine how the problem escalated in the wake of September 11th.
 
I was born in England. Simran Jeet Singh, a religious scholar who wrote a booked called The Light We Give, is my American counterpart, a Sikh with Punjabi roots who was born and raised in Texas. He has also dealt with a lot of racism and misunderstandings in his life. He wears a turban like my dad’s, and has also been called a terrorist. Singh points out that one of the many ironies of a common taunt he receives – “go back to where you came from” – is that even in India, Sikhs are a minority who have faced genocide and terrible human rights violations against a government that persecutes them. But of course, if he were to go back to where he came from, that would be Texas! It’s a pertinent reminder to not judge a book by its cover.

Another irony layered into this persecution is that the Sikh tradition is all about equality, justice, and unconditional love for everyone – even those who would wrong us. Sikhs are the original social justice warriors. We believe in loving our neighbors, respecting other people’s beliefs, community service, and honoring difference. These values are very holy to us, and we put a lot of emphasis on them, and on the practical matter of how to live up to our values in the course of everyday life. Because we’re human, we don’t always live up to those values. But it’s important to try.

Lately I’ve been reflecting my Sikh roots and beliefs in preparation for my presentations at the Smithsonian Folklife Festival in Washington, D.C, (taking place June 29 – July 4 and July 6 – 9 on the National Mall. You’re invited!) I’ll be leading daily “kitchen table”-style conversations that explore stories as living expressions of culture, faith, tradition and meaning making. The theme of the festival is living religions. The Sikh faith, like Catholicism and Islam and any number of the world’s religion, isn’t static; it’s always changing over time, and of course varies from region to region or even person to person.

With Sikhs in particular, doctrine isn’t really a big focus. So instead of talking about the theological roots of my Sikh beliefs, which go back hundreds of years, it makes more sense to talk about how these values were passed along to me: as a story. When I was little, my mother taught me something she called “the journey of five.” She described it as a sort of heroic quest where you embrace and learn from five traditions different than your own, at the end of which you fully come into your own as a Sikh. Our journey of five took us to a variety of places and events (Midnight Mass, for instance), and afterwards we’d talk about faith and love and difference. This experience was so real to me that I only recently became aware that this was seemingly my late mother’s idea, and not a traditional Sikh teaching—a perfect example of how “living religions” work within our families and among communities.

My mother’s journey of five has always stayed with me, and perhaps as a result (along with the Sikh tendency to focus on learning and curiosity), I’ve always had an interfaith bent. Early in my career, when I was a teacher in Scotland, I lived just off the Royal Mile. I liked to joke that John Knox, the founder of the Scottish Reformation, was my neighbor because his historic house was actually literally a stone’s throw away. St. Giles Cathedral, the Church where he preached during the Reformation, was a place that I would go to rest and regroup after work. Sometimes I’d sit there for a while—before an antiwar protest, for example—and embrace the beauty of that sacred space. I loved the stillness and the quiet. But I also loved how I could hear the soft sounds of traffic and activity outside. It gave the space a womblike quality that was comforting and affirming, and it was always a good place to collect my thoughts.

The journey of five isn’t just about learning about different religions. It’s about community, places, and experiences. Different ways of life. It’s a form of spiritual travel, not unlike enjoying a trip abroad and experiencing the wonders of new sights and how other people do things. It’s good to go home, but there’s always something to take with you—maybe a newly cultivated appreciation for a food, a new form of greeting, or the memory of a beautiful painting in a museum.

I’m reminded of the time more than two decades ago, just out of school, when I lived in a shared flat. It was a ragtag crew, including writers, poets, artists, travelers—and a little mouse called Simon. We always had a basket with different kinds of bread on the table. Some days the basket was filled with fresh bagels or delicious fresh almond croissants taken from the bakeries where some of my roommates worked along the Royal Mile. Some days the bread was stale and hard, and other days, by the time I got out of bed, there were just multicolored seeds and crumbs. The contents of our breadbasket were unpredictable, much like the household itself. By telling you about it now, you understand more about who I am and where I’ve been. Every story is a new opportunity to share our humanity, even if we do so imperfectly.I try to remember that when I’m confronted with ignorance and hostility toward my own faith, and as I encounter beliefs that are new to me.

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Ode to the Kitchen Table

3/22/2023

 
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By Kiran Singh Sirah
The first time I visited America, it was 1988, and I was just 12 years old. I came with my older brother and my mum and dad, who had saved for years to give us one of those classic American vacations. We went to Disney World and had our picture taken with Mickey Mouse. We went to see Sea World and met baby Shamu. And of course we went to New York City, where my father took us to see the Statue of Liberty. It was cinematic, like the films I had grown up watching. 
I returned to New York as a young man, as a student in the U.S. for the summer. I remember looking around and realizing just how many different types of people there were in New York. (It was much more diverse than where I had grown up.) I walked across Manhattan, ate a hog dog, and watched four cops from two different divisions have an all-out argument on the street. It was like a scene from the American police procedurals we watched on TV back home. I walked all the way from Harlem to an art gallery in midtown Manhattan, stopping at a tiny Jamaican café to get a bite to eat en route. Every moment was a story I could tell my friends as soon as I got home. It really did feel like a montage from the movies.
After a few days, I took an Amtrak train from Central Station to Chicago. It was an overnight journey, but I spent most of my time in the smoking carriage. That’s where people stayed up late to chat. It was a lively scene, and it happened to be the Fourth of July. America was just too exciting to go to sleep.
I’ve always loved that Americans like to talk. They’re less shy to spark a conversation than we are in the UK, and seem interested in knowing where you come from. They ask about your heritage. In the smoking car, knowing I was from Britain, a fellow passenger assumed I was a fan of the Beatles. But I hadn’t really listened to the Beatles at all! I told them I was more into New York hip hop that we loved so much in London: Doug E. Fresh and the Get Fresh crew, Grandmaster Flash, Run-D.M.C., Public Enemy, and the Beastie Boys (alongside Bhangra, the Cure, and Adam and the Ants). Weirdly, I was the only boy where I grew up who seemed to be into Motown music. I only had one Motown cassette tape, so in New York I bought some mix tapes from a guy who was selling them on a street corner. He had a boom box attached to this wheelchair, and he blasted out tunes while passersby would dance and sing along. This is the kind of thing I still love about big city America.
After an early career in education, the arts, social justice, and peacebuilding, I was offered a fellowship to come to the United States to study at UNC-Chapel Hill. After all the paperwork, the last thing to do was obtain my student visa at the U.S. embassy in London. Looking around for the building, I could see the embassies of France, Germany, and Spain. They looked like town houses, whereas the U.S. embassy was a giant fortress with armed guards. From the outside, it was intimidating. But after moving through security, when you were inside, everyone was so personable and welcoming.
I arrived in Raleigh with just two (very full) suitcases. I had packed some smart pants and a nice shirt in preparation to meet my new professor. When we met at Starbucks, and she wore sweatpants, I realized Americans are a bit less formal than us Brits. As I began my studies, I felt anxious about fitting in and making friends. The work was intense and there were some difficult moments. I struggled a bit but my teachers reminded me that it was my experience they were interested in, not necessarily my qualifications. One professor encouraged me to think about studying Americans as “the other.” As a Brit, and as a person of color with an accent, I was in an interesting position to observe and ask questions. She encouraged me to think about how my work could help the nation to speak to itself and understand its own stories and potential.
This resonated with me and my past experiences as an outsider or “other” in the West of Scotland, Northern Ireland, Spain, and Colombia, all places I had worked. I had facilitated programs and roundtable conversations around issues of historical sectarian divisions, racial tension, and violence, helping people be in dialogue to envision a better story for themselves and for their communities.
In North Carolina, I wasn’t the most astute academic student, but I brought a lot of experience and curiosity to the table. My professor encouraged me to gain experience — to do ethnographies, work with farmers, and tailgate at football games. These were new experiences for me, and I felt wide awake. I talked with people in a homeless shelter to learn how displaced people think of home. I observed the Occupy Wall Street movement and performed a spoken-word poem with protesters. Before I began, I looked up and saw a big star-spangled banner waving in the air and realized my associations with that flag were starting to feel different. I was beginning to see in my mind’s eye not just those iconic cinematic images that I had grown up with, but a greater diversity of people, places, and ideas.
Since then, I’ve been invited to give talks in places like South Carolina country clubs where Robert Lee’s portrait hangs on the wall, and in traditional African American performance venues and churches. I’ve had the chance to offer my respects to indigenous elders on behalf of my ancestors. I’ve helped communities discuss contested symbols including the Confederate flag and monuments. At some point, I finally stopped noticing people’s accents, and they stopped noticing mine. Coming from an urban background, I was surprised when a friend referred to me as a “rural practitioner.” But I’ve embraced Appalachia as my own and find myself, at times, defending the South and the stereotypes people use to ridicule this place I call home. What I have learned everywhere I’ve lived and worked is that no one story ever defines a place. We need to hear them all.
Across the world, from China, across Europe, and through Africa, people have built monuments that we see over and over again on postcards and in movies and our mind’s eye. These are the images we see on Wikipedia and associate with places that we don’t necessarily know very well. As a kid, I thought of America as the Statue of Liberty, but now I associate this country with the image of the humble kitchen table. I think of hospitality, and how most Americans welcome newcomers and feel curious about people who are different from them. I’ve been invited to many a dinner and potluck (my favorite kind of gathering), and shared many stories with the people who I’ve invited to my house to sample my spicy cooking. Our ability to share the traditions and stories that we bring from all over the world here in one place together is what makes this nation so unique—and I genuinely believe it’s the country’s greatest asset. I feel a responsibility to nurture and contribute to that. Collectively, we have to make sure there’s room for everyone to grab a seat at the table, and that everyone feels welcome enough to share.

We’re Getting There

2/23/2023

 
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By Kiran Singh Sirah
In the 1980s, the United Kingdom’s national rail service was notoriously slow. I was a kid then, so I wasn’t aware of it at the time, but I’ve heard that if someone was late for a meeting, they could always blame it on the rail service and everyone would harumph and agree. Eventually, the company embraced its bad reputation as part of its rebranding. Instead of claiming that their service was the fastest or the best, their motto became: “British Rail: We’re getting there!”

​I’ve always loved how they played to British sensibilities, almost as though the company itself became one of us. I mention it because I’ve been thinking about that motto a lot as a new American citizen, as this young nation goes through change and reaches towards its amazing potential.

The United States is an idea in motion—and we definitely have more work to do.
Since I moved here, I’ve observed the progress of socio-political movements like Occupy Wall Street. I’ve watched Black Lives Matter rise, and be suppressed, then rise again. I always look at these movements through the lens of storytelling and the desire that people have to feel heard, recognized, and understood. And I like to remind people that this is a service we can all offer one another, anywhere, at any time, for free. Sharing our stories with one another fosters a culture of empathy and helps us cultivate compassion for other people’s experiences.
The U.S. is full of these stories, bursting from struggle, perseverance, pain, sorrow, joy, celebration and more. People are striving for a better sense of themselves and of others, and for the people who lived before our own lifetimes. We even struggle to see what the world will be like for future generations we’ll never know. I think we’ll only rise to our potential as a nation when we can make room for all these stories in their multiplicity.
I learned a selection of our nation’s most iconic tales when I was studying for my U.S. citizenship test, which for me was an interview with a federal officer in Nashville. I had to memorize the answers to 100 civic questions, though I’d only be tested on 10 of them. It was a fascinating process. I learned that Benjamin Franklin helped found the nation’s first free library, that there are three branches (and six parts) of U.S. government, and that the last day you can send in your federal income tax forms is April 15th (a good reminder!). Alexander Hamilton wrote the first Federalist Papers. Susan B. Anthony fought for women’s rights. My American wife, who helped me prepare, learned a few things as well, and even our six-year-old got into it. Getting ready for this test became a family activity. I nailed my 10 questions, which was a huge relief. Afterward, we went out for Jamaican food.
The oath of allegiance ceremony was scheduled for January 26th at the courthouse in Knoxville, Tennessee. I drove there with my wife and daughter the night before, choosing a hotel room close to my favorite restaurant in town, Yassin’s Falafel House. The owner, Mr. Yassin, is a Syrian American immigrant who was once voted the nicest person in America. (He truly is, and you can feel it in the food!) I’ve followed him on social media for years, and was sorry to see when his shop was smoke bombed some time ago. I’m not sure why that happened, but I can guess—and that story is just an example of the struggles that so many immigrants face in this country, even when they’re beloved in their communities.
Loaded up with carryout coffees (and a muffin for my daughter), we walked a few blocks in the early hours of the dark winter morning. We had all dressed for the occasion. I wore a shirt and tie with a suit jacket and smart pants. My wife was dressed up, and Mirabel, who is six, wore a beautiful mermaid dress and a shiny tiara.
In the waiting room before the ceremony, I was handed a letter from President Biden. This was part of everyone’s welcome package, and in it the president talked about being part of, and contributing to, an idea. It reminded me of my experience obtaining a green card. There was a plaque of Ronald Reagan on the wall that read: “We draw our people, our strength, from every country and every corner of the world.” I have to tell you, it felt like Ronald Reagan was speaking directly to me. Ten years and two Subarus later, the magic of the mountains surrounding these mountains have become my home.
At the ceremony in Knoxville, there were 150 of us from 51 different countries. After the official opening (which felt a lot like a board meeting), our names were read out loud, one by one. It reminded me of my undergraduate graduation, but this was better. I received a certificate, a handshake, and a little American flag as I walked offstage.  Eight or nine women from the Daughters of the American Revolution greeted us and invited us to join them for juice and cookies. I could see how genuine their welcome was, and Mirabel enjoyed getting lots of attention for her outfit. I registered to vote and did an impromptu interview with a local TV station. It was a really uplifting experience.
After the ceremony, we visited the candy store and had lunch before we drove home. In India, there’s a tradition that when something new occurs—a celebratory moment or a new beginning—you eat something sweet as a blessing for the journey. So later in the day, we all shared our candy.
Often, the stories we see on TV or read about on the internet suggest that we, as a nation, are divided. It’s easy to take that as a matter of fact. My fellow Americans, I can say that it’s not! There is much more to what is going on if we can learn how to listen in new ways and respect the sensibilities of all our neighbors.
I take my opportunity to contribute to our shared idea of the United States very seriously. I feel committed to helping people and elevating the storytelling potential of this nation, so we can cultivate a culture of listening to one another and embracing diverse traditions. As a country, we still have a lot of difficult work to do to bring healing, validation, and recognition to difficult stories that have been suppressed or intentionally ignored. We need to get to know the people where we live and learn more stories about this place we all call home.
I really do believe it’s an idea worth striving for. To borrow a motto: We’re getting there!

The Art of Deep Listening

9/29/2022

 
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Kiran and Daniel, in Tennessee
By Kiran Singh Sirah

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about listening. The late storyteller Kathryn Tucker Windham, one of the matriarchs of the American storytelling movement, liked to say that storytelling teaches us to listen. Stories can’t exist without at least one listener, after all. One of the things I enjoy most about the events such as the National Storytelling Festival and other similar festivals, is the sheer spectacle of an audience sitting in rapt attention as a single storyteller works. The modern world, with its constant demands on our attention, doesn’t offer many such opportunities these days.
Kiran and Daniel, in Tennessee
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I have learned so much about the art of listening from my friend Daniel Kish. Blind from early childhood, he’s a world expert on echolocation, the process that animals including bats, dolphins, and now humans can use to locate objects by sound. Daniel is famous for developing a technique that uses tongue clicks to produce sounds as a way to “see” and understand an environment. (One expert has described the technique as an “acoustic flashlight.”) Over the years, Daniel has trained both blind and seeing people on his methods.

In a sense, what Daniel is doing is helping people remove their fear of the dark, both literally and metaphorically. He once told me that he likes to begin the training process by “neutralizing fear of the dark unknown.” He wrote, “We essentially remove fear from ourselves and our lives. Life then becomes an intriguing tapestry of puzzles, adventures, and discoveries.”

Many of Daniel’s observations over the years have resonated with me, in part because I know that storytelling contains information that help us navigate and understand the world around us. It’s human nature to fear the unknown, and it can be helpful to have a guide. For blind people, of course, those fears are quite tangible, since the unknown can be present immediate physical danger. Daniel once described echolocation to me as “establishing the knowns within the unknowns, something like navigating by the stars. You chart your way by establishing points of reference, a bit like making it into a story.” Listening can help all of us navigate unfamiliar and even scary situations.

The parallels between Daniel’s work and storytelling have been even more clear to me when he has discussed other methods of navigating unfamiliar environments. Here’s Daniel again, on working with sighted guides during travel:

Blind people typically engage sighted guides to facilitate their safe, effective, and graceful navigation through, interaction with, and understanding of their environment. Insofar as the guiding process necessitates physically guiding the movements of a blind person, it also requires narrative descriptions. Much as a hearing interpreter helps a deaf person interact primarily with the social environment through the interpretation of spoken language, a sighted guide helps a blind person interact primarily with the physical environment by interpreting visual elements through narratives as well as physical guidance.

These narratives aren’t just expository verbiage landing on a blind person’s consciousness like some podcast or radio channel streaming. These narratives are actively captured and processed through what I call a “comprehension matrix,” and ultimately formed into images. In essence, they are coded in the brain as stories, or elements that comprise stories, and rich in substance, character, and information. For a blind person, these narrative stories and story elements help to establish a blind person’s mental construct of the world around them and their relationship to it. For a blind person, physical guidance is typically the key to their interaction with the world, but it’s the narratives and rich exchanges that are the key to a blind person’s understanding.

 
Though Daniel and I initially met a conference where he participated in a workshop I was leading (and I attended one of his talks), we have since become very good friends. He lives across the country, in Long Beach, California, and we occasionally use FaceTime to have long conversations. We were pandemic buddies, which paved the way for his special visit to Appalachia last year. He stayed with me for a week, during which I got to introduce him to our region’s BBQ, my favorite walks and hikes, and my family. Daniel also met with my storytelling colleagues to discuss his work and share his thoughts and ideas.

When he was here, I shared with him the three different routes I take often by car. There’s one that I use when I’m in a hurry, and one that’s good for when I have a bit more time. Finally, there’s the much longer one, my favorite, which winds along country rural roads with no traffic. Daniel encouraged me to try a sort of driving meditation, where I aim to notice something new or surprising on the route. It’s a way to develop focus and pay attention by using sight and sounds. This practice is something I’ve kept up. I know I’m not doing it when my mind is preoccupied or too busy, so the goal is always to get back to paying attention again and remain present in the moment.

Daniel also introduced me to the idea of soundscapes and how they change over time: the sounds of the wind, leaves falling from trees, and noises from humans or animals or cars. We can hear the subtle shifts when we pay close attention. When we went on one of my favorite hikes, along the Appalachian Trail beside Watauga Lake, Daniel helped me notice more of this audio input based on the natural amphitheater that our trail had beside this lake, in the Fall.

Via email, Daniel has shared with me some sound clips of various activities of real-time recordings of chirping birds that he made. I was amazed by how he could describe their movement and the physical location of houses by listening to the sounds that the birds were making.

One time, a bird made its way into his house on accident. He could hear the sound of the bird panicking because it didn’t know how to get out. As it flew back and forth across his living room, he could hear other birds outside, moving in parallel. Daniel said that, as he opened the back door to let the trapped bird out, he noticed a sound from a small flock, like a call and response to help guide the lost bird to the exit.  In another clip, he shared the sounds of some ravens, and described how they moved from tree to tree, how to distinguish between males and females, and the sizes of each. I started making my own recordings of soundscapes, like the bird noise near my dad’s house in England, the sound of coffee percolating, and the sizzle of onions and cumin seeds roasting in my cast iron pan. With thanks to Daniel, I have realized that is actually one of my favorite sounds.

Deep listening is not just a source of information, but also of wonder. Daniel once told me about a time he decided to climb a tree when he was a boy. No one had told him that the sky was far away, so he wanted to try to touch it. As he got further up, it dawned on him that the sky was out of reach. In the branches, listening to the sounds from the ground and across the fields, was when he discovered his love for soundscapes.

I invite you to join me in practicing the art of these many types of listening: to feel informed, to light dark paths, and to inspire wonder and awe.
 


The Slow Storytelling Movement

8/24/2022

 
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Kiran's family. Kiran is bottom row, second from right.
By Kiran Singh Sirah
The first annual National Storytelling Festival was in 1973, and as we get ready to celebrate our 50th year I’ve done a lot of reflecting on that first convening and what it has meant. I wasn’t there (I hadn’t even been born yet!), but I feel a deep personal connection to it, in part because this has also been a milestone year in my family. Fifty years ago, in 1972, my parents were forced to flee Uganda under threat of death from an evil dictator. And 2022 is also the 75th anniversary of the partition of India and Pakistan, which led to a terrible refugee crisis that also affected my people, including my granddad, who was forced to fight.  My family’s stories survived through the stories they carried with them when they were displaced and driven out of their homes.
In 1973, with almost nothing but the clothes on their backs, my parents landed in a small town in the south of England, where I was born four years later. So when I say that you can lose everything—your home, your treasures, your clothes—but no one can take away your stories, I really mean it. Your stories belong to you, and they will keep you company wherever you go. For me, as a child, stories were what my parents used to tell me and my brother about where they came from, about my grandmother, and about other faraway family members and places and traditions.
Growing up in an immigrant family in the south of England, I didn’t often see myself reflected or represented when I looked around. (I was the first person of color born in my hometown.) But I learned a lot at our huge family gatherings. (My extended family is scattered all over the world—mostly in the UK, but also in India, Canada, and several East African nations.) We would gather at the cul de sac at the end of the street of our small concrete housing estate. Sometimes there were 50 or 60 or more of us, including my parents and my grandparents, many first cousins, and many more extended family members. My aunties would turn our garage into a restaurant-style kitchen with large cooking pots called patilas. With my uncles and cousins, I would help chop the onions. There were so many! And as we prepared the food, which would take all day or multiple days, there was laughter, music, banter, and songs that continued late into the evening or even the early morning. My grandmother often played the dholki drum as people clapped and danced.
Sometimes our elders—and especially my grandmother, our large and proud matriarch—would sit under the tree in the backyard, or on the sofa in the house, and everyone would gather around to hear a story. They told us stories of survival, courage, love, faith, and belonging. Often, they spoke in Punjabi, our mother tongue. Even in my memory, these occasions retain a sense of vibrancy. My family loved to celebrate life. I remember someone mentioning to me that they had noticed a big party at our house, and I had to tell them it was actually my mother’s funeral. Even though it was a difficult time, we felt smothered in love.
At nighttime, my little cousins and I slept side by side on the floor while the adults stayed awake to take turns singing old Bollywood songs. Every corner of the house was occupied, and we’d wake up to the smell of my aunties making hot masala chai. On nice days, we would head to the seaside for a picnic.
I think that, over the years, I’ve sought out that warm and lively atmosphere in many places where I’ve lived and worked. It’s a good, comfortable feeling, and I think our Festival has it. Jonesborough is a place where people of different ethnicities, traditions, ages, and backgrounds come together in fellowship and story. People are generally happy to be there. There are different families and friends and perspectives. And through the stories themselves, we hear what my colleague Nick Spitzer, who hosts NPR’s “American Routes,” describes as “information disguised as entertainment.” Just as I learned about my family and our heritage in my family’s informal gatherings, the stories that we hear each year at the Festival are teaching us about other places and times and traditions.
Stories and our modes of sharing them are intrinsically linked to identity and understanding who we are, where we come from, and what we value. In recent years, in the U.S. and elsewhere, issues of identity have increasingly come to the fore, often with the terrible baggage of tension, conflict, and unrest. It’s incumbent upon us to unpack stories about our collective heritage, and find ways to honor everyone without becoming defensive about traditions that no longer serve us as a society.
When I was a kid, we were sometimes told folk tales at school assemblies. At night before I’d go to bed, I’d switch on the globe lamp in my bedroom and imagine different places in the world. The seashore was close to our house, and during the day I’d look out over the water and imagine other places, knowing that one day I’d get to travel and see them myself. Every day, as kids and as adults, I think we’re all just trying to make sense of the world we live in. We’re continually searching for meaning and purpose, and we’re naturally curious. We have a deep desire to seek out truth, and to meet and connect with other people. And sharing stories with each other is integral to all of that. Our faiths and traditions, the way we craft quilts or pass along recipes, and even the way we decorate our front porches or put stickers on our cars tell stories about who we are and what we believe.
When we look at the world in this way, it’s clear the idea that one story or identity could replace another is false and even silly. Life is not a zero-sum game where your success comes at my expense. Our stories are interconnected and interwoven, and there’s room for everyone to pitch in, because together these tales form a tapestry that is always expanding (much like the universe itself).
Stories are a form of magic. And you can’t capture magic with a formula or an algorithm. Business consultants and advertisers might use the language of storytelling for their own purposes, but stories aren’t transactional. In public relations, or on the news or social media, people look for the shortest way to tell a story. And I think that approach is wrongheaded, and that we’ve all suffered for it. To really understand something—let’s say the U.S. South, or the country, or the subcontinent of India—a three-minute elevator pitch isn’t going to work. (Certainly, if I’d asked my grandmother to a story in three minutes, I’d have gotten what is known in the business world as negative feedback!) A single story or a single article or a single book also isn’t going to work. We need to listen to many different perspectives to better comprehend the big picture.
Stories also help us build important mental and emotional muscles. Kathryn Tucker Windham, one of storytelling’s matriarchs, often talked about how the role of storytelling is to help us to truly listen. Stories can’t exist without at least one listener. But modern life and its distractions discourages us from cultivating that skill and that appetite.
Storytelling is a real counterargument to the sense of powerlessness that many of us feel when there is trouble and conflict in our communities and in the world. It’s not just a force for social change; storytelling is social change itself. It helps us connect, engenders new understanding, and inspires us to act for positive change in the society in which we live. I think stories can help us see past the surface of our political opponents and rehumanize one another in an environment that encourages us to do the opposite.
We have a natural tendency to be interested in the stories of people like us. But every story holds some form of truth. How much are we willing to listen to those truths, fully and intentionally, and without judgment— even when they’re different from our own?
A festival is an opportunity to broaden and expand our understanding of one another, and to delve in and hear complex stories that have been forgotten, neglected, or suppressed. It is a curious combination of ancient and modern. Stage become spaces in which traditions can be preserved for future generations and serve as a living art form here and now. As listeners, connect with others, even if we’re just sitting together quietly.
Multiculturalism is a foundational American value that we need to celebrate, not fear. The story of this nation is bigger than any one of us, yet it is closely tied to our individual identities. There’s beauty in each and every person’s experience, if we only take the time to listen and understand.
As we celebrate our 50th year dedicated to the art of storytelling, I’ll be thinking about those gatherings I used to have with my family, and the warm sense of wonder that came from learning about where we all come from. I wish that for everyone, as a time to hear stories that foster a sense of joy and comfort, and an open mind and heart to listen.
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